Healthy things grow. They grow, they don’t stay still, they don’t shrink back and they don’t hide. Choosing to be wholly healthy in body, mind and spirit isn’t just going to happen from osmosis of reading about what healthy people do or the journeys they have taken. You have to pursue your own growth. Do you want to be healthy?
This is the “You can do hard things” post. Because you can, you can do hard things. You have friends around you, family in it with you, and (most of all) Christ as your strength--you can do the good-hard work. You are ready. So don’t look back now friend.
Here is the tricky thing about this post: I can’t tell you exactly what the good-hard is for you. I don't know what it looks like in your life. I can tell you that for me it was going to the doctor (a few times and fighting for the answers that I needed in order to move forward), going to counseling, and getting in with a well recommended psychiatrist. My good-hard also meant being really honest with the people around me, and making changes to our family schedule and my personal routine. For me, medicine plus counseling was what I needed to heal and reset my approach to life. This isn’t the same for every person. I can tell you that I believe sometimes medicine is extremely helpful, but I believe it should never be used without counseling of some kind. No matter what your deal is, you will benefit from learning about how to cope, learning what triggers you, learning how to face those triggers without completely going off the deep end and practicing self care. Some churches offer free counseling, some offer support groups, some have recovery ministries...there are so many resources out there, you have no reason to leave them on the shelf.
I wish that I could just fix things for you….hey, I wish I could have just fixed things with the snap of my fingers for myself! But there is no quick fix when it comes to healing wounds that you might not have even known were there until you starting having anxiety on a physical level. I promise you with all my heart...you will not regret the good-hard. It’s worth it. My own journey has changed me so much, I’ve grown in a greater understanding of myself and my God that I find myself thankful for the mess. I know it seems ridiculous from where you’re standing, but I’m so thankful that God gave me the opportunity to be rebuilt and restored.
And hey...here’s a little secret in case you didn’t pick up on it already: I wasn’t miraculously healed. I still have to be proactive to maintain my health and not because I can’t function, but because I can. I do have to respect my limits, but honestly…..everyone else does too. Some people just learn that lesson earlier than others.
Remember: you are not alone and you are loved! We can do hard things! YOU can do hard things.
Here are some of my favorite resources that I’m excited to share with you! So get ready, get in the fight, pursue your health. The reason it's called "good-hard" is because this is for the sake of your goodness. Doing the hard work isn't just so you can be "normal" it's so you can thrive from the inside out, so you can go on and be a light and a warrior.
Putting an X through Anxiety by Louie Giglio
Fierce Faith by Alli Worthington
When I Am Afraid (support group or mentoring curriculum)
(Check out my Spotify playlist! These are songs I listened to a lot on hard days!)